We have been on 4 dates. She changed plans for tomorrow due to her kid needing attention and I for now am trying to believe her. Now its lunch tomorrow but we both admitted we don’t have anything particular to do tomorrow so maybe it will be as fun as dinner. I wonder how long to go on for, that is how many more dates. I like her but she acts a little guarded and not willing to be vunerable, but she’s smart to do that especially since she’s probably been hurt before(99% of people). I hope she opens up soon so I don’t lose interest. I do like her but I am not smitten. I haven’t seen her enough to be smitten!
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She has a child, she’s smart to be guarded.
if you aren’t smitten then why have the where do we stand conversation. take it slow, see where things go. if she’s been hurt a lot in the past she will take longer than most to open up and if you care enough be patient. but i wouldn’t have that talk anytime soon. wait until you start seeing her make an effort back then you will know the feeling is mutual.
Talk to her… tell her how you feel and ask how she feels about the relationship between the two of you.
tell her you like her and want to continue to see her, you want to know where this can you. Also tell her you don’t want to see her get hurt.
I thought those conversations got left in middle school and adults instead of talking about where things are going wait to see where they go.
I think that you need to realize that her job as a mother is first and foremost. As a Mom myself, I don’t see any reason for you not to believe her. Being a mom takes a lot out of you, supporting and caring for a child - plus a job and even more a relationship. Luckily I am married, so my relationship requires less maintenance than a budding romance. I would be patient if you feel she’s worth waiting for. In the beginning stages many moms don’t bring the kids in until it develops into something more. Once you know the kid it will be easier to share time together because you can all do things together. I wouldn’t put pressure on her just yet. If you don’t have the patience to wait, just move on because dating moms who take their role as mothers seriously will require some patience. Good luck and I hope this information helps some.
When you date a single parent, you need to realize that everything they do in some way or another, affects their children. She probably doesn’t want to get too involved until she knows how you would treat her children. If you are not smitten, why are you trying to rush things? If she were your mother, you would want her to be guarded too. Remember, she has obviously been hurt, and I am sure the children have been too. Don’t push her, you may lose a very nice person.
