anonymous asked:


Copyright (c) 2008 Charles Carter

It is difficult decision

Simply we love it, we like to wear and feel good about it. Somehow it seems to enhance our appearance and appeal a great deal. Our eyes are so conditioned that the people in designer clothing seem to look smarter and more energetic than those in modern regular outfits.

It is a straight forward decision in case of parents and elders; they go in for custom outfits even if they are a bit more expensive. But it is essential expense in the context of social living. But when it comes to making decision with regard to buying custom clothes for children we are confused and the decision swings between yes and no indecisively. Parents do want their children well dressed and presentable. Their smart looks among the kids of friends is a pleasure to watch. When appreciated by high-end society friends it is almost an achievement leading to the ascending steps of social recognition. But the utter uselessness of buying designer clothes for children too cross the mind because soon the children will grow and leave behind the costly designer clothes smaller in size as unusable. So it becomes a hard decision to make.

Some reasons to buy designer clothes

If the values of social standards weigh more than the value of money in your life, you should go for designer clothes for children.

If the parents have friends in the circle who notice what their children wear and evaluate, then it is imperative that they buy specially made clothes for their children even though they might feel the pinch of the expense a bit.

Above all there is one reason which makes most of the parents go in for designer clothes for their children. That is the magic of love, they want to see their children in the best set of clothes and they wish to provide their children with the best.

Some reasons for not buying high end clothing

One major reason for not buying designer clothes for children is the cost of them. They are surely very expensive when compared to non-designer fashion wear. In recent times as the cost of living has risen to touch the sky, for many parents it is not an appealing idea to go in for designer clothes for their children.

And the second deterrent faction is simply a biological reason. The way children grow in fast pace these days buying expensive high end materials is a risky affair. You wont know for how long the clothe would remain fit in size. When children out grow the size of their dress they abandon it as though they are something that the cat has brought in.

The reason parents easily could attribute to decide against kids suits is that the children are not aware whether they wear custom patterns or other fashion wear. And the children actually do not care what brand of wear they adorn themselves with.

The basis for a decision

In the ultimate analysis the decision to buy or not to buy personally designed clothes for children depends on the parents. If you wish to see them in designer clothes, go for it but be sure that to your children those are just clothing and they are going to use them as they use the clothes they wear at home because it does not matter much whether they are in modern outfits or some other.

But it is also an irrefutable fact that the present world is highly fashion conscious and fashion, social standards and social prestige go hand in hand and all complement and enhance each other supportability. And what you or your kids wear is actually the life-style statement you make, a statement that expresses your attitude about life. To be in the lime light of fashion is imperative in the present world.

Designer clothes are affordable

All the discussion about buying or not buying personalized clothing for children is because of its exhaustive price. Walking into any designer showroom makes you a bit jittery even if you have a million dollars in your pocket when you see the price tag. But this is no more the case with on line shopping.

You can now buy online the best of designer wear at cost that you can afford. The online shopping turns out to be less expensive because there are no overhead expenditure, no showroom cost and so on and all these benefits are shared with the consumer and so online shopping is less expensive.

mist asked:


Aslaamualkum. umm i having a little trouble finding games for ages are 5-7 and 8-11 seperately. i have to go to a local masjid and babysit the kids with a few helpers. Also the games must be related to islam.
jazakaallah for ur help. I have very few games that I decided but soon or later the kids will get bored.

dammit asked:


I am stumped by the amount of homework my kids bring home. Especially on holidays and weekends. I don’t ever remember getting that much homework when I was a kid. My kids’ school has stairs so a book-bag on wheels would be a bit of a hassle, but I’m afraid we’re raising, yes, smart kids but also over-worked ones with bad backs.
Perhaps this is only in a few places. My kids are straight A and B students and the sign when you drive into our town says one of the top 100 schools in the United States. I think perhaps they are trying to keep on that list. My kids barely have time for extra- curricular activities. And yes, they are elementary students. And I am an involved mother who helps them with their homework. A lot of the parents in town have had the same complaints.

Isis Is: I SAVED ANOTHER! asked:


to help make a point, i once knew a woman who wanted to get a dog that would take any treatment her 4 and 6 yr olds would dish out. i asked her, do you think your childrens IQ’s are lower than a dogs? wouldn’t it make more sense to teach a child right from wrong? you did good. i’d have hit the kid.

Kenneth Scott asked:


Forcing your child to study or show learning of concepts that they are not ready for are a guaranteed way of creating a hatred for learning. The best way to let kids learn is to provide them learning games and let them set their own pace. As and when kids get curious about things they will indicate in some way or the other that they would like to know more. Your task as a parent at this stage is to expose them to a myriad of options starting from picture books to shapes and blocks that they can plug together. Allowing a comfortable pace at this stage and not being pushy about learning right from the very start helps kids become creative, develop exploratory skills and are more involved as students later.

As your child grows older the educational needs of your child change and so do the educational toys or games. At this stage your child may need to develop skills in math or science or maybe reading skills. One of the games that have been developed for increasing math skills is a variation of Bingo, in which you call out simple mathematics problems that may require mental addition or subtraction to start with and the kids strikes off the number that is the answer. This can prove to be a very interesting game that can be played among friends as well without intervention from you. The kind of problems that you set as questions can be made to be relevant to the age of your child and so this is one game that does not make itself useless to fast. Older kids may like to play with games that can demonstrate the practical aspect of science and the manner in which it can be used in normal daily life.

It is important to note that there may be some children that may take to learning easily and enjoy the activity as is but there are some who do not take to it so easily. For these children, especially the educational games are a boon and allow them to learn while having fun. The benefits of using these games do not stop at learning skills but they also associate a sense of fun and enjoyment with learning of any kind. Your child is less likely to desist from acquiring new skills if the process has been smooth in the past.

Earnestworker asked:


Several years ago, I decided to embark on the road of spititual enlightenment. Not satisfied with my life as it was nor at ease with the condition of society and very ill at ease about the global situation, I felt I had to at least do my part in making the world and my life better. Since I was already deeply interested in the study of world religions and personal development, my shift consisted mainly with devoting more time to those areas.

As I became more involved with the task of changing myself, a whole new world of information and pathways opened for me. It was very early i realized; “No easy job is this”. My first discovery was that I was more messed up than I had thought and that the causes were not as pointed as I had believed and the ability to make any changes would not be easy. I was familiar with the theories of “wounded inner child” “learned behaviors”, but the deep rooted, complex, habitual effects I was not prepared for.

I discovered we all live in a world that is designed (largely by accident) to put us in a state of sleep and keep us there beginning from birth. As my efforts to awaken and enliven my consciousness progressed, I found out that most of my inner resources needed to accomplish my mission were either damaged, or under/undeveloped themselves. How does one build a house without tools? The tools have to be constructed first. For the next few years my time was spent studying the writings of several different spiritual enlightenment systems. I extracted as much as possible from all of them, and noted any areas they had in common. Without realizing it at the time, my transformation had began.

There is a lot of information online to assist anyone that seriously wants to change their attitude and outlook. Although there are many systems available to facilitate change, some are not feasible for every individual. Personally, I found most to address issues from a similiar viewpoint and acknowledge basically the same solutions, the difference in programs was with the method advocated to bring about advancement. There are people that claim all one has to do is listen to some CD’s or visualize or some other one-step process. These things are just ONE part of a whole that must be practiced as a whole to gain real, lasting results. There are no quick fixes; you can’t jump the fence, you must come through the gate.

To be that loving, kind, consideration, at peace person we all want to be and that some of us “know” is buried somewhere inside of us requires diligent, hard work and a great deal of sacrifice. I studied and practiced using my intuition as my guide and realized an expansion of intellect, some shift of view, and a gain of confidence. After some time, I felt I had traveled as far as I possibly could on my own. It was time for a teacher.

So began the next on my journey to the gate. Once again, relying solely on intuition, I started my search. Schools are plentiful. But they all seemed to offer instruction aimed at one portion of the problem or another. My experience had shown me that in order to become whole, my fragmentations had to be reconciled with a system that could unite me physically, spiritually, and mentally. Buddhism, yoga, mysticism etc. only address one of the sides only. Meanwhile I knew my growth was pretty much at a standstill.

Finally, one evening, as fate would have it, I discovered two systems of instruction; either of them alone offering what I was looking for. They are Pathwork and Fourth Way. Fourth Way in particular I am excited about. It is the most complete system of instructions for the development of the individual as I have seen.

I am settled in now, and ready to begin the down and dirty work of self transformation. How far have I traveled in 8+ years? I have taken one step on my path. Am I discouraged or unhappy? No way; the journey is as exciting and rewarding as the destination and I know that I am spending my life as I should.

Earth asked:


What are the characteristics of a child genius?
Who said I have a child? I don’t.
Seriously, why bother answering if you’re going to get personal?

mimi asked:


When most states already have it for children. Genius!

Wilmavimom asked:


My 6 month old son cannot roll from his front to his back yet. He does roll from his back to his side, and then from his side to his stomach, so I’m not worried about him developmentaly, but it would be nice to teach him to roll to his back. He is stong enough, he lifts his upper body and supports himself on his arms. He does get tummy time 10-15 mon 2-3 times per day, sometimes more, and I try to put his toys slightly out of his reach, but he just squirms to get to them. Sometimes I think that he might crawl before he starts rolling over!

Steven Barnes asked:


The most elusive quality of excellence, of peak performers worldwide and throughout history is that thing called “Mastery.” What is this thing, and is it possible for ordinary people, however committed, to touch this exalted state?

The answer is “yes,” but I’ve got good news, bad news, and more good news. The first good news is that the path is deceptively simple. The bad news is that it is hard, and can be painful. The last, good news is that those on the path have no real competition—very few people are actually willing to be excellent in life. They want to talk about it, and dream about it, but are unwilling to actually pay the price.

And this, as I’ve said, is very good indeed for those few of us who are. The first thing we must do is devise a useful definition of “Mastery” whether we are talking about this quality in the domain of writing and the arts, of interpersonal interactions, of intellectual pursuit. Then we must throw light on a pathway to this quality that will enable us to reach our peak potential.

Try this description: “Mastery is the ability to perfectly match energy and attention to the task at hand.” In other words, if every task has a perfect “profile” of attention and ability necessary to complete it, if you bring either less or more of yourself to the task, you may well complete it, but you will struggle and waste energy—or not perform properly at all.

Or try this description: “Mastery is the ability to perform instinctively and instantly in the manner you would perform had you a month to consider your actions.” In other words, to have instant access to your own deepest capacities.

In other words, Mastery is the place where intellectual or physical or emotional preparation meets pure instinct. The reflexes of an animal, the emotional purity of a child, the intellectual focus of a scholar. An incredible goal, designed to create incredible results.

And the achievement of that goal is exactly what I.D.E.A. is about.

Instinctive Designation of Energy and Attention. The deliberate cultivation of instinct, energy, and intellect to maximize your results as a writer, athlete, businesswoman, human being…whatever your goal. The theory is both childishly simple and devilishly difficult, but is your key to accessing your deepest wisdom.

Basically, I.D.E.A. says that you develop your instincts by giving yourself deep feedback about the way you are currently operating in the world. To strip away illusion, and operate in a “truth zone” about the person you are and the world you live in. As the ancient Samurai Musashi Miyamoto once put it, “Do not think dishonestly.” A commitment to total truth will tear the blinders from your eyes, possibly for the first time in your life.

Sounds simple? Just wait. Here’s the bad news. In order to be certain that you are accurate in your assessments, you must take responsibility for your life, and the results you have achieved (or occasionally endured!) in all three major arenas of your life: body, mind, and spirit.

1) Body is fitness and health. Your body should be in alignment with your own values, or you should be engaged in a daily process of cultivating the physical health and beauty and performance that WOULD reflect your values. Want to know if you are? Strip to your underwear and look in the mirror. If you are attracted to what you see, you are in alignment with your values. If you aren’t, you aren’t. It’s as simple as that.

2) Mind. Mind manifests most clearly in our education and career. Any worm will move away from pain, and toward pleasure. Believe me, if you aren’t working at a career you enjoy, it isn’t due to lack of intellect. In such a case you may have emotional conflicts, value confusion about safety, freedom, and responsibility, and it would behoove you to commit to healing them. The core question: if you won the lottery next week, would you still be at your job next year? If not, you should accept the challenge of crafting for yourself a career path that IS that attractive.

3) Spirit. Just as grass bending can signal the presence of wind, the relationships we have with other human beings in THIS world can help us understand our connection to the divine. The most important relationship to address is the one with our most significant other, our husband or wife, or lifemate. The history of this aspect of our lives tells us an enormous amount about our inner world. The most important question: If you viewed your partner (or the average of your partners, over your relationship history) as being your mirror image, what would that say about you? And don’t protest that they aren’t, that there’s no connection between you and the most important person in your life. What a joke! Our relationships measure our honesty, passion, intelligence, self-respect and general energy Take responsibility here. If you’re happy with your relationship, pat yourself on the back! And if you’re not…you have work to do.

You need not tell another human being what you learn if you look at these three arenas, but YOU need to know. You need to come to some conclusions about how and why you are in the life space you are in. The answers to these questions must be consistent: in other words, you are willing to judge other people by the same standards you hold yourself to. In all likelihood, engaging in the I.D.E.A. process will give you vast compassion for other human beings: we are all battle-scarred, we are all magnificent, we have all failed, we have all succeeded.

And we move on, toward the light. For an artist, and we are all artists, this process opens the door to a level of understanding most human beings never approach. If you walk this path, it’s important to avoid guilt, blame, and shame—these emotions have no place in the evaluation of our lives. They merely cloud the issue. Meditation, dream diaries, therapy, or talking with good and supportive friends might be valuable to help move through the pain and confusion. What I promise you is that if you walk this path, you will be one of the very very few human beings on this planet who are actually committed to excellence. Mastery can be lonely…but as you climb that mountain, moving toward a more and more rarified level of performance, you will begin to meet the other climbers. And they will extend their hands to you, and welcome you into an extraordinary family…one bonded not by blood, but by spirit.