My Kid is Smarter Than Yours|Don’t cry. I don’t hold it against you.
Aug
27
Filed Under (Parenting) by Corey
melinamenny asked:
Endow your kid with intelligence
Everyone wants to see his/ her children successful and happy when they grow up. Success is related to intelligence since only an intelligent citizen survives in the struggle for existence. Enrichment of intelligence starts at home when the kids start learning, especially with the help of toys. Some toys, rightly called educational toys endeavor to put forth the fact that learning is not necessarily boring but often a fun. Learning can at times be an enjoyable enrichment of their human self.
With numerous modern methods of teaching, and so many developmental approaches toward education of the child, sometimes it becomes really difficult to take the right decision. In case of the educational toys, developmental games and learning materials are the important ingredients in the recipe to make learning fun. It is advisable to use your child’s favorite game as the means of his learning. He will, in that case, develop a right attitude towards game and learn more rapidly than he’d do in class.
The best way is to start from simple books and educational toys, then slowly moving to more complex educational games, science activities and puzzles. You have to understand the interest of your child; if he is interested in pirate games, dinosaur activities, electronic playground, play dough animals or marble run construction, then it will inspire his ingenuity, thoughts and resourcefulness.
Their intelligence can be expanded by introducing the children to various subjects like math, language, music, art, science, history and geography. You can also let your child’s imagination in arts and crafts, making music, building a castle or searching for bugs. This will enrich his knowledge. You can actually create a fun environment by making your child’s mind stronger and building up his level of confidence.
The power of magnets is known throughout the world. It is simply amazing and people wit a minimum amount of intelligence will like his kid to play with this magical thing. The power of magnet to attract and repel will not only amuse the kid but also endow him with a new light of knowledge,
There are various toys which makes the child understand the basic colors and also learn some new colors (combination of primary colors like magenta, cyan etc). Therefore a carefully selected toy helps in learning and spatial development of a child of all ages. It also increases the cognitive skill and helps in motor development. Moreover, the kids enjoy these games and perhaps this is the most important aspect.
The scientists have observed a new fact that those kids who received the benefits of educational toys and games have their IQ increased by 32 and 58 points. This is extremely astonishing. Thus the impact of education toys is significant in every corner of the world.
Endow your kid with intelligence
Everyone wants to see his/ her children successful and happy when they grow up. Success is related to intelligence since only an intelligent citizen survives in the struggle for existence. Enrichment of intelligence starts at home when the kids start learning, especially with the help of toys. Some toys, rightly called educational toys endeavor to put forth the fact that learning is not necessarily boring but often a fun. Learning can at times be an enjoyable enrichment of their human self.
With numerous modern methods of teaching, and so many developmental approaches toward education of the child, sometimes it becomes really difficult to take the right decision. In case of the educational toys, developmental games and learning materials are the important ingredients in the recipe to make learning fun. It is advisable to use your child’s favorite game as the means of his learning. He will, in that case, develop a right attitude towards game and learn more rapidly than he’d do in class.
The best way is to start from simple books and educational toys, then slowly moving to more complex educational games, science activities and puzzles. You have to understand the interest of your child; if he is interested in pirate games, dinosaur activities, electronic playground, play dough animals or marble run construction, then it will inspire his ingenuity, thoughts and resourcefulness.
Their intelligence can be expanded by introducing the children to various subjects like math, language, music, art, science, history and geography. You can also let your child’s imagination in arts and crafts, making music, building a castle or searching for bugs. This will enrich his knowledge. You can actually create a fun environment by making your child’s mind stronger and building up his level of confidence.
The power of magnets is known throughout the world. It is simply amazing and people wit a minimum amount of intelligence will like his kid to play with this magical thing. The power of magnet to attract and repel will not only amuse the kid but also endow him with a new light of knowledge,
There are various toys which makes the child understand the basic colors and also learn some new colors (combination of primary colors like magenta, cyan etc). Therefore a carefully selected toy helps in learning and spatial development of a child of all ages. It also increases the cognitive skill and helps in motor development. Moreover, the kids enjoy these games and perhaps this is the most important aspect.
The scientists have observed a new fact that those kids who received the benefits of educational toys and games have their IQ increased by 32 and 58 points. This is extremely astonishing. Thus the impact of education toys is significant in every corner of the world.
Aug
26
Sammy R asked:
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Aug
25
Filed Under (Parenting) by Corey
Jason Roberts asked:
It’s never too early to start teaching your kids about money. If you start teaching your kids about money early there is a much better chance that they will grow up being responsible with money and appreciating the value of money. Sometimes parents put off teaching their children about how to manage money when they are young because of a lack of understanding of how to begin.
When children are very young teaching them about money can be as simple as helping them learn to identify coins. You can even take your kids with you on shopping trips when they’re very young so they can start to get an idea of what money is used for.
When your children have reached elementary school age they’re probably old enough to start receiving a weekly allowance. It’s not important how much this allowance is. The important thing is that kids be taught how to use money wisely so as not to waste it. At the same time they can start to learn about giving to a local charitable group or church. If there is a new toy that your child wishes to own this can be a perfect time to explain to them the value of saving.
Taking your children with you when you go grocery shopping is another way to introduce them to the importance of managing money carefully. Allow them to help you in the process of comparing various products in order to determine the best buy.
As your kids get older there is also value in encouraging them to find ways to earn money by helping out around the house.
When your kids move into the teenage years is often best to start to tie their allowances to specific chores which they are required to do.
Teaching your children about money as they get older can also include: asking for their input with planning a budget for an upcoming vacation, requesting they help with grocery shopping, and encouraging them to complete their own tax returns if they have a job. Older teens can also learn a lot by obtaining a small installment loan and making regular payments. This way they can learn about why it’s important to budget for financial obligations. They will also build their credit in the process.
Teaching your kids about how to properly manage money when they’re young will help ensure they become more financially responsible as grown-ups.
It’s never too early to start teaching your kids about money. If you start teaching your kids about money early there is a much better chance that they will grow up being responsible with money and appreciating the value of money. Sometimes parents put off teaching their children about how to manage money when they are young because of a lack of understanding of how to begin.
When children are very young teaching them about money can be as simple as helping them learn to identify coins. You can even take your kids with you on shopping trips when they’re very young so they can start to get an idea of what money is used for.
When your children have reached elementary school age they’re probably old enough to start receiving a weekly allowance. It’s not important how much this allowance is. The important thing is that kids be taught how to use money wisely so as not to waste it. At the same time they can start to learn about giving to a local charitable group or church. If there is a new toy that your child wishes to own this can be a perfect time to explain to them the value of saving.
Taking your children with you when you go grocery shopping is another way to introduce them to the importance of managing money carefully. Allow them to help you in the process of comparing various products in order to determine the best buy.
As your kids get older there is also value in encouraging them to find ways to earn money by helping out around the house.
When your kids move into the teenage years is often best to start to tie their allowances to specific chores which they are required to do.
Teaching your children about money as they get older can also include: asking for their input with planning a budget for an upcoming vacation, requesting they help with grocery shopping, and encouraging them to complete their own tax returns if they have a job. Older teens can also learn a lot by obtaining a small installment loan and making regular payments. This way they can learn about why it’s important to budget for financial obligations. They will also build their credit in the process.
Teaching your kids about how to properly manage money when they’re young will help ensure they become more financially responsible as grown-ups.
Aug
24
Filed Under (Parenting) by Corey
Brian J. Gordon asked:
Every child is unique and so is their learning behavior. In order to enable faster and more effective learning, companies have come up with various interactive learning toys for kids. These toys make the learning experience enjoyable for your kids and keep them busy as well. Learning toys are available in various shapes and sizes to fit the different learning objectives of your child. Also, the bright colors of the toys attract children to them and hold their interest more and more. Apart from effective learning, these toys help in the overall individual growth of children.
Learning toys for the newborn: Specially designed learning toys are very useful for newborn infants. They help to stimulate their basic senses of touch, hearing etc. Such toys help first-time parents to entertain their kids in a positive manner and watch them develop quickly. A good example of a learning toy for a newborn infant would be soft, colorful balls that enhance coordination between hand and eye.
Learning toys for toddlers: This is the time when your kid grows intellectually. And all you need to do to support this phase is provide innovative learning toys. To help build creativity in your bundle of joy, you can get bring attractive blocks or give him clay, crayons and paper with which to show off his artistic talent. You might even try chalk and chalkboards.
Learning toys for the special child: There are overly sensitive children who suffer from conditions like Attention Deficit Disorder. Learning toys to soothe such children are also available in the market. Puppets or action figures with costumes help such children engage in pretend play. They change characters and don’t feel a lack of attention. Play acting makes them imaginative and puppet shows help them have fun while changing voices as they play different characters. To make your child happier you can record the pretend play performance and watch the replay at your leisure along with him.
Apart from these, educational books, CDs, and other toys that teach numbers, the alphabet, and names of animals and fruits are also available.
However, while choosing learning toys for children, parents need to exercise caution. The following things should be kept in mind when purchasing toys:
• The toy should be in keeping with the age of your child and the age group for which it is designed.
• The toy should provide healthy activity to your child without frustrating or annoying him.
• It is important to ensure that the toy is safe, non-toxic and hygienic for the baby, and that your toddler’s health is not at risk when he is having fun with his toys.
• The toys should be attractive enough to interest your baby even when he is cranky or upset.
No matter which toy you choose, remember, learning toys are meant to entertain and educate your baby and not to disturb him/her in any way.
Every child is unique and so is their learning behavior. In order to enable faster and more effective learning, companies have come up with various interactive learning toys for kids. These toys make the learning experience enjoyable for your kids and keep them busy as well. Learning toys are available in various shapes and sizes to fit the different learning objectives of your child. Also, the bright colors of the toys attract children to them and hold their interest more and more. Apart from effective learning, these toys help in the overall individual growth of children.
Learning toys for the newborn: Specially designed learning toys are very useful for newborn infants. They help to stimulate their basic senses of touch, hearing etc. Such toys help first-time parents to entertain their kids in a positive manner and watch them develop quickly. A good example of a learning toy for a newborn infant would be soft, colorful balls that enhance coordination between hand and eye.
Learning toys for toddlers: This is the time when your kid grows intellectually. And all you need to do to support this phase is provide innovative learning toys. To help build creativity in your bundle of joy, you can get bring attractive blocks or give him clay, crayons and paper with which to show off his artistic talent. You might even try chalk and chalkboards.
Learning toys for the special child: There are overly sensitive children who suffer from conditions like Attention Deficit Disorder. Learning toys to soothe such children are also available in the market. Puppets or action figures with costumes help such children engage in pretend play. They change characters and don’t feel a lack of attention. Play acting makes them imaginative and puppet shows help them have fun while changing voices as they play different characters. To make your child happier you can record the pretend play performance and watch the replay at your leisure along with him.
Apart from these, educational books, CDs, and other toys that teach numbers, the alphabet, and names of animals and fruits are also available.
However, while choosing learning toys for children, parents need to exercise caution. The following things should be kept in mind when purchasing toys:
• The toy should be in keeping with the age of your child and the age group for which it is designed.
• The toy should provide healthy activity to your child without frustrating or annoying him.
• It is important to ensure that the toy is safe, non-toxic and hygienic for the baby, and that your toddler’s health is not at risk when he is having fun with his toys.
• The toys should be attractive enough to interest your baby even when he is cranky or upset.
No matter which toy you choose, remember, learning toys are meant to entertain and educate your baby and not to disturb him/her in any way.
Aug
23
Filed Under (Parenting) by Corey
Fiona Taylor asked:
Why the ‘Secret’ may not be working for you.
By Fiona Taylor, mystic, consciousness coach, winner of 7 World Titles in Windsurfing & Olympian
www.barakaya.com
The Law of Attraction has become known as ‘the secret’ since the release of Rhonda Byrne’s best selling book The Secret.
The Law of Attraction is not new to the Personal Development industry or to the spiritual seeker. For thousands of years the mystics, sages and spiritual teachers have known only too well the Universal Law of Attraction.
The early Jewish mysticism known as the Kabbalah, which is based on the teachings of Abraham over two and half thousand years ago talks extensively about reincarnation and the Law of Attraction.
Some of histories great philosophers and teachers including Gallileo, Da Vinci, Sir Isaac Newton, Leibniz, Pico della Mirandola, Sir Francis Bacon, Carl Jung and Plato studied the Kabbalah and understood the Law of Attraction.
The Law of Attraction basically means that what we think, feel and believe we create. What we broadcast out to the universe in the form of our thoughts, emotions, feelings and beliefs we ‘attract back’ to ourself. All thoughts, emotions and feelings are vibrations of energy. All vibrations of energy will be attracted to similar/like vibrations of energy.
If you think good, positive, loving thoughts you will attract those experiences into your reality. If you feel you are unworthy of making money or having a loving relationship, this is what you will create. If you feel you are worthy winning in sport that is what you create. If you feel that you never have enough money that is what you will create.
Is it really so simple?
It is not so much what we think, as thoughts float into and out of our awareness, but what is crucial is how we feel. Our feelings mould our reality whether we like it or not.
So to create what you would like to create in your life you must feel the feeling of what it feels like to already have what you desire. Do not assume it is in the future, but feel as though you already have it. The subconscious mind does not determine between past, present or future. That is why all self affirmations and visualization techniques for manifestation use the present tense. We must feel what it feels like to have what we want – not focus on not having what we want.
Why does the Law of Attraction not always work?
When we broadcast our thoughts, beliefs and feelings out to the universe we not only broadcast out what we are aware of (or conscious of) but we also broadcast out everything that lies in our subconscious and unconscious minds. The subconscious mind is where all our memories and experiences are stored since conception in the womb. The unconscious mind is also referred to as the Soul, and this is where all our memories from all the lives we have ever lived reside.
Our conscious mind (awareness) is not aware of what is being broadcast out to the universe from all the programs running in our subconscious and unconscious mind’s. So when we want something in our life, or we try working harder and harder to achieve something and yet fail over and over again then we need to go deeper and look at what is happening beneath the surface of our awareness. For example, in my windsurfing career unconscious themes sabotaged my conscious efforts to win more events. For five years I seemed to have ‘bad luck’, chaos or illness that prevented me from winning. It made no difference how ‘positive I was’, or ‘how many self affirmations I told myself’, or how hard I trained, the programs running in my unconscious mind simply sabotaged everything.
It was not until I retired from sport and was able to connect with my own unconscious mind – my own Soul Story, that I was able to determine the ultimate cause of the ‘bad luck’, chaos and illness. At the deepest level I had ‘created’ all of it. But in order for me to have realized that I had to take responsibility for Self and acknowledge that I create my own reality.
The entire Self Help industry is based on taking responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings and actions. However, for most people it is ok to take responsibility for all the ‘good’ things in their life, but if they are then told that they also create the ‘bad’ things, then this is a bit hard for their ego/rational mind’s to accept. Only when you connect to your own Soul (and God Self) does the ego finally feel the truth of this – that our consciousness creates our reality.
When we are stuck in the five physical senses we feel separated from everything. We believe that all events happen by random chance. That is the illusion of the five senses. When we tune into our own ‘6th’ sense or Spiritual Intuition we start to connect with All there Is (the God Force/or God/Goddess/All there Is) – Oneness. Only then can we feel the truth.
If we keep on attracting in the same terrible relationships, or losing our job, or over spending our money, or going into debt, or have recurring illness, failing to lose weight or keep it permanently off, or we are unable to increase our income we need to look at the ultimate cause.
The ultimate cause always lies in our own consciousness.
Does a past life affect this life?
Time ‘is an illusion’ according to Einstein, Stephen Hawking and the great scientists throughout history. Time does not exist beyond the perception of our fives senses. As physical beings we experience time as a linear concept with past, present and future. However all time is simultaneous. It is our conscious mind that perceives it in a linear fashion. The Kabbalah uses the analogy that time equals the distance between cause and effect.
All of ourselves that we have ever been (all of our ‘past lives’) are still in existence somewhere in our own mind – or hologram. For example when hypnotherapists work with their patients they realize that all of the memories in a person’s past are still there in their mind. All memories are recorded and present in our mind-field. For example the child part of me who was operated on in hospital at four weeks old is still somewhere in my consciousness.
So another ‘life time’ is happening in another Time-Space continuum (another dimension) and is happening right now. The emotions and memory of any lifetime can be accessed in ‘now time’ (in this life time) and they are what is called ‘lifehoods’.
The soul operates in an open system; it is connected to the universe (or universal mind) and all information that has ever existed and exists can be accessed at this level. The universal mind has also been called the Morphogenic Field by Rupert Sheldrake, a leading biologist and thinker on the human mind.
The rational mind (intellect and ego) operates in a closed system bound by time and space and the five physical senses. This is important to recognize as a ‘past life’ cannot affect this life unless there is an unresolved theme that needs healing and resolution in this life. It means that if you ‘killed someone’ in a ‘past life’ it does not mean that you will ‘pay for it’ in this life. There is no direct link between ‘cause and effect’ from past life to this life because all of our ‘lives’ are happening now. The eternal now.
There have been misleading teachings among all religions in relation to ‘cause and effect’ when it comes to ‘paying for our sins’ in past lives. This is incorrect. Once we take responsibility and realize that we are ‘at cause’ and create our reality we can find any part of us that is creating chaos or pain for us and change it. This is called ‘clearing our karma’. We all have the ability to do this.
We can transform those parts of us that sabotage our desire to make money, have a loving relationship or win a sporting event.
All lives we have ever lived are all happening in the eternal now. The soul is multi-dimensional. It can live in many different existences simultaneously. Quantum science is starting to understand the nature of multi-dimensionality by discovering parallel universes.
So if we dig deep into our own subconscious mind we may find ‘programs’ (belief systems) that are no longer serving us. We all can develop belief systems that are not conducive to success at the subconscious level. If however we have healed everything we can find (via therapy, hypnotherapy, time line therapy, counseling etc) in our subconscious mind and yet still there is no change in our life then it is very common to have a ‘past life’ theme, or several, that are unresolved.
All emotional wounds and unresolved ‘programs’ from other lives exist at the level of the soul – deep in our own consciousness.
These emotional wounds leave imprints at soul level and often have a ‘bleed through’ affect where they affect our current life. And of course we have absolutely no idea that this is in fact happening, unless we have well developed spiritual intuition.
The only way to heal these is to find the ultimate cause – original wound at Soul level.
The unconscious mind affects the subconscious and conscious minds. Our core and unconscious belief systems, perceptions and filters are all shaped by our past life experiences. These deep lifehood wounds and experiences affect our ‘lens’ of the world, how we see, feel and experience other people and events in our life.
So in order to change, heal and transform the unconscious mind we need to find ultimate cause – you cannot simply change these wounds by using the power of your own thoughts to change your thinking. You have to heal the emotional charge that still resides at Soul level. That is why self affirmations and some meta-programming techniques do not work at this level.
Meditation is a great technique to reduce stress levels in the body, however unless we do the emotional processing and transform emotional charges nothing fundamentally changes in our lives.
True enlightenment is the ability to hold more Light in the cells of our body. The only way this can happen is if we transform emotional charges that reside in every cell of our body. That means healing each ‘personality program’ one by one. These are also called ‘personas’. One by one we can transform personas that originated in this life or another life. The less emotional charge we hold in our cells the more room they have to be able to hold more divine Light – Love from the creator – God/Goddess/the universe.
To do this requires deep self exploration, but more often than not a good practitioner who can access this information for you.
A mystic is someone who is able to ‘vibrate up’ and access the information at Soul level, interpret it and then assist people in gaining new awareness. For example when I work with my clients I am able to ‘vibrate them up’ to access and feel this information. This information is downloaded into their conscious awareness so that they can feel the truth of the lifehood wound, or issue that is still unresolved.
All information is energy and all energy simply vibrates at different frequencies. For example the information at the subconscious mind level vibrates higher than our conscious awareness. The information that resides at Soul level vibrates even higher than the subconscious mind level. So it really is about being able to access this information. We all have this ability, however, most people have forgotten how to do this. Most people have under-active spiritual intuition and discernment.
Lifehood (or ‘past life’) wounds affect all of us at some time throughout our lives. In my client sessions and workshops at least 70% of people have a lifehood wound that needs to be addressed and healed that is underpinning all the other chaos in their lives, or holding them back.
In my books Spirit in Sport, and An Olympian’s Guide to Weight Loss I discuss in depth the nature of the Soul, lifehoods and healing emotional wounds. Both these books have an in-depth section on real emotional intelligence and the Sports book also has a section on Spiritual Intuition. For example I lost 18 pounds in 2 days after transforming a ‘past life’ wound at Soul level. My body literally morphed. (I share the details in my weight loss book in detail. You can download the free intro to my books on my website.)
Another example of healing at Soul level is a sporting client who finally placed 3rd at the World Championships in her sport recently. She had not had a top 3 finish for 8 years. She had had a huge ‘past life’ wound playing out for her. Once we healed this wound she was able to get back into the top three in the world in her sport, a place she had been able to achieve over 8 years ago. But because the ‘past life’ wound had been affecting her current performance she was unable to attain such success. Once it was cleared she could get back into the top three.
So if The Law of Attraction is not working for you then it simply means that you still hold unconscious beliefs and emotional wounds that are sabotaging your conscious efforts for change in your life.
The other reason you may not be creating the life you really want as quickly as you want is that your ego wants something for you, yet your Higher Self and Soul wants something else. Many people spend their lives listening to the rational, logical solutions from their ego and society and they ignore their own heart and Higher Self’s will.
Eventually we are all forced, either consciously or unconsciously, to follow the will of our Higher Self. The universe will set up events and situations to mirror back to us what we need to heal and learn from. Often we can experience more chaos before we achieve what we really desire. This is the breaking down of the ‘old’ reality to make way for a ‘new reality’. Often the only way the ego, in its ignorance, can learn, or wake up to what it really needs to know will happen via chaos or crisis. When things are rosy and fine the ego does not grow much. So chaos and change force us to grow to new awareness.
Divine Timing.
If we are not receiving what we think we want then it can often be because our ego has not yet learned what it came into learn. Spiritual lessons are part of why we incarnate. This is difficult for the ego (rational mind) to fathom. However, until certain events happen in our lives, or we meet certain people, or we succeed or fail at something we do not ‘get the spiritual lesson’ that we came to learn. Things are divinely timed for us. They may not happen in the time frame that our own ego wants. Our ego can feel impatient and despondent if it does not get what it wants fast enough.
So when chaos is happening in our lives it is important to remember that it only means the universe is shaking us up for future growth in consciousness. We will always learn from chaos. We simply cannot get attached to it, but trust that we will get through any challenge we face.
One way to get through chaos faster is to completely surrender. Surrender to the Higher Self and ask for inner guidance. Only when the ego surrenders will it be able to grow to new awareness.
The ego thinks it is in control of everything in its life – however that is the illusion of the ego. I discuss the nature of surrender and control in Spirit in Sport and this is discussed in depth at our programs.
Raising consciousness
The way to inner peace, love and joy is to heal those subconscious programs that are holding us in emotional *******. The emotional highs and lows from elation to depression, resentment to infatuation are the ego’s emotional journey through life. It is only when we connect with our Higher Self – our Soul that we can access true divine love and joy. Living with joy and love is our natural state of being – beyond the ego. In challenging times the ego gets stuck in the emotional pain and forgets the true loving state of the Soul Self – our True Self. Our evolution in human form is to heal those personas/programs (the Negative ego) in our mind that are emotionally charged and wounded.
The Barakaya programs and coaching assist people to heal those parts of their consciousness that are no longer serving them. This includes transforming limiting beliefs that hold people back from achieving the joy, wealth and loving relationships in their lives.
©Fiona Taylor, www.barakaya.com 2007
(If you wish to use a part or whole of this article please contact Fiona for permission.)
Why the ‘Secret’ may not be working for you.
By Fiona Taylor, mystic, consciousness coach, winner of 7 World Titles in Windsurfing & Olympian
www.barakaya.com
The Law of Attraction has become known as ‘the secret’ since the release of Rhonda Byrne’s best selling book The Secret.
The Law of Attraction is not new to the Personal Development industry or to the spiritual seeker. For thousands of years the mystics, sages and spiritual teachers have known only too well the Universal Law of Attraction.
The early Jewish mysticism known as the Kabbalah, which is based on the teachings of Abraham over two and half thousand years ago talks extensively about reincarnation and the Law of Attraction.
Some of histories great philosophers and teachers including Gallileo, Da Vinci, Sir Isaac Newton, Leibniz, Pico della Mirandola, Sir Francis Bacon, Carl Jung and Plato studied the Kabbalah and understood the Law of Attraction.
The Law of Attraction basically means that what we think, feel and believe we create. What we broadcast out to the universe in the form of our thoughts, emotions, feelings and beliefs we ‘attract back’ to ourself. All thoughts, emotions and feelings are vibrations of energy. All vibrations of energy will be attracted to similar/like vibrations of energy.
If you think good, positive, loving thoughts you will attract those experiences into your reality. If you feel you are unworthy of making money or having a loving relationship, this is what you will create. If you feel you are worthy winning in sport that is what you create. If you feel that you never have enough money that is what you will create.
Is it really so simple?
It is not so much what we think, as thoughts float into and out of our awareness, but what is crucial is how we feel. Our feelings mould our reality whether we like it or not.
So to create what you would like to create in your life you must feel the feeling of what it feels like to already have what you desire. Do not assume it is in the future, but feel as though you already have it. The subconscious mind does not determine between past, present or future. That is why all self affirmations and visualization techniques for manifestation use the present tense. We must feel what it feels like to have what we want – not focus on not having what we want.
Why does the Law of Attraction not always work?
When we broadcast our thoughts, beliefs and feelings out to the universe we not only broadcast out what we are aware of (or conscious of) but we also broadcast out everything that lies in our subconscious and unconscious minds. The subconscious mind is where all our memories and experiences are stored since conception in the womb. The unconscious mind is also referred to as the Soul, and this is where all our memories from all the lives we have ever lived reside.
Our conscious mind (awareness) is not aware of what is being broadcast out to the universe from all the programs running in our subconscious and unconscious mind’s. So when we want something in our life, or we try working harder and harder to achieve something and yet fail over and over again then we need to go deeper and look at what is happening beneath the surface of our awareness. For example, in my windsurfing career unconscious themes sabotaged my conscious efforts to win more events. For five years I seemed to have ‘bad luck’, chaos or illness that prevented me from winning. It made no difference how ‘positive I was’, or ‘how many self affirmations I told myself’, or how hard I trained, the programs running in my unconscious mind simply sabotaged everything.
It was not until I retired from sport and was able to connect with my own unconscious mind – my own Soul Story, that I was able to determine the ultimate cause of the ‘bad luck’, chaos and illness. At the deepest level I had ‘created’ all of it. But in order for me to have realized that I had to take responsibility for Self and acknowledge that I create my own reality.
The entire Self Help industry is based on taking responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings and actions. However, for most people it is ok to take responsibility for all the ‘good’ things in their life, but if they are then told that they also create the ‘bad’ things, then this is a bit hard for their ego/rational mind’s to accept. Only when you connect to your own Soul (and God Self) does the ego finally feel the truth of this – that our consciousness creates our reality.
When we are stuck in the five physical senses we feel separated from everything. We believe that all events happen by random chance. That is the illusion of the five senses. When we tune into our own ‘6th’ sense or Spiritual Intuition we start to connect with All there Is (the God Force/or God/Goddess/All there Is) – Oneness. Only then can we feel the truth.
If we keep on attracting in the same terrible relationships, or losing our job, or over spending our money, or going into debt, or have recurring illness, failing to lose weight or keep it permanently off, or we are unable to increase our income we need to look at the ultimate cause.
The ultimate cause always lies in our own consciousness.
Does a past life affect this life?
Time ‘is an illusion’ according to Einstein, Stephen Hawking and the great scientists throughout history. Time does not exist beyond the perception of our fives senses. As physical beings we experience time as a linear concept with past, present and future. However all time is simultaneous. It is our conscious mind that perceives it in a linear fashion. The Kabbalah uses the analogy that time equals the distance between cause and effect.
All of ourselves that we have ever been (all of our ‘past lives’) are still in existence somewhere in our own mind – or hologram. For example when hypnotherapists work with their patients they realize that all of the memories in a person’s past are still there in their mind. All memories are recorded and present in our mind-field. For example the child part of me who was operated on in hospital at four weeks old is still somewhere in my consciousness.
So another ‘life time’ is happening in another Time-Space continuum (another dimension) and is happening right now. The emotions and memory of any lifetime can be accessed in ‘now time’ (in this life time) and they are what is called ‘lifehoods’.
The soul operates in an open system; it is connected to the universe (or universal mind) and all information that has ever existed and exists can be accessed at this level. The universal mind has also been called the Morphogenic Field by Rupert Sheldrake, a leading biologist and thinker on the human mind.
The rational mind (intellect and ego) operates in a closed system bound by time and space and the five physical senses. This is important to recognize as a ‘past life’ cannot affect this life unless there is an unresolved theme that needs healing and resolution in this life. It means that if you ‘killed someone’ in a ‘past life’ it does not mean that you will ‘pay for it’ in this life. There is no direct link between ‘cause and effect’ from past life to this life because all of our ‘lives’ are happening now. The eternal now.
There have been misleading teachings among all religions in relation to ‘cause and effect’ when it comes to ‘paying for our sins’ in past lives. This is incorrect. Once we take responsibility and realize that we are ‘at cause’ and create our reality we can find any part of us that is creating chaos or pain for us and change it. This is called ‘clearing our karma’. We all have the ability to do this.
We can transform those parts of us that sabotage our desire to make money, have a loving relationship or win a sporting event.
All lives we have ever lived are all happening in the eternal now. The soul is multi-dimensional. It can live in many different existences simultaneously. Quantum science is starting to understand the nature of multi-dimensionality by discovering parallel universes.
So if we dig deep into our own subconscious mind we may find ‘programs’ (belief systems) that are no longer serving us. We all can develop belief systems that are not conducive to success at the subconscious level. If however we have healed everything we can find (via therapy, hypnotherapy, time line therapy, counseling etc) in our subconscious mind and yet still there is no change in our life then it is very common to have a ‘past life’ theme, or several, that are unresolved.
All emotional wounds and unresolved ‘programs’ from other lives exist at the level of the soul – deep in our own consciousness.
These emotional wounds leave imprints at soul level and often have a ‘bleed through’ affect where they affect our current life. And of course we have absolutely no idea that this is in fact happening, unless we have well developed spiritual intuition.
The only way to heal these is to find the ultimate cause – original wound at Soul level.
The unconscious mind affects the subconscious and conscious minds. Our core and unconscious belief systems, perceptions and filters are all shaped by our past life experiences. These deep lifehood wounds and experiences affect our ‘lens’ of the world, how we see, feel and experience other people and events in our life.
So in order to change, heal and transform the unconscious mind we need to find ultimate cause – you cannot simply change these wounds by using the power of your own thoughts to change your thinking. You have to heal the emotional charge that still resides at Soul level. That is why self affirmations and some meta-programming techniques do not work at this level.
Meditation is a great technique to reduce stress levels in the body, however unless we do the emotional processing and transform emotional charges nothing fundamentally changes in our lives.
True enlightenment is the ability to hold more Light in the cells of our body. The only way this can happen is if we transform emotional charges that reside in every cell of our body. That means healing each ‘personality program’ one by one. These are also called ‘personas’. One by one we can transform personas that originated in this life or another life. The less emotional charge we hold in our cells the more room they have to be able to hold more divine Light – Love from the creator – God/Goddess/the universe.
To do this requires deep self exploration, but more often than not a good practitioner who can access this information for you.
A mystic is someone who is able to ‘vibrate up’ and access the information at Soul level, interpret it and then assist people in gaining new awareness. For example when I work with my clients I am able to ‘vibrate them up’ to access and feel this information. This information is downloaded into their conscious awareness so that they can feel the truth of the lifehood wound, or issue that is still unresolved.
All information is energy and all energy simply vibrates at different frequencies. For example the information at the subconscious mind level vibrates higher than our conscious awareness. The information that resides at Soul level vibrates even higher than the subconscious mind level. So it really is about being able to access this information. We all have this ability, however, most people have forgotten how to do this. Most people have under-active spiritual intuition and discernment.
Lifehood (or ‘past life’) wounds affect all of us at some time throughout our lives. In my client sessions and workshops at least 70% of people have a lifehood wound that needs to be addressed and healed that is underpinning all the other chaos in their lives, or holding them back.
In my books Spirit in Sport, and An Olympian’s Guide to Weight Loss I discuss in depth the nature of the Soul, lifehoods and healing emotional wounds. Both these books have an in-depth section on real emotional intelligence and the Sports book also has a section on Spiritual Intuition. For example I lost 18 pounds in 2 days after transforming a ‘past life’ wound at Soul level. My body literally morphed. (I share the details in my weight loss book in detail. You can download the free intro to my books on my website.)
Another example of healing at Soul level is a sporting client who finally placed 3rd at the World Championships in her sport recently. She had not had a top 3 finish for 8 years. She had had a huge ‘past life’ wound playing out for her. Once we healed this wound she was able to get back into the top three in the world in her sport, a place she had been able to achieve over 8 years ago. But because the ‘past life’ wound had been affecting her current performance she was unable to attain such success. Once it was cleared she could get back into the top three.
So if The Law of Attraction is not working for you then it simply means that you still hold unconscious beliefs and emotional wounds that are sabotaging your conscious efforts for change in your life.
The other reason you may not be creating the life you really want as quickly as you want is that your ego wants something for you, yet your Higher Self and Soul wants something else. Many people spend their lives listening to the rational, logical solutions from their ego and society and they ignore their own heart and Higher Self’s will.
Eventually we are all forced, either consciously or unconsciously, to follow the will of our Higher Self. The universe will set up events and situations to mirror back to us what we need to heal and learn from. Often we can experience more chaos before we achieve what we really desire. This is the breaking down of the ‘old’ reality to make way for a ‘new reality’. Often the only way the ego, in its ignorance, can learn, or wake up to what it really needs to know will happen via chaos or crisis. When things are rosy and fine the ego does not grow much. So chaos and change force us to grow to new awareness.
Divine Timing.
If we are not receiving what we think we want then it can often be because our ego has not yet learned what it came into learn. Spiritual lessons are part of why we incarnate. This is difficult for the ego (rational mind) to fathom. However, until certain events happen in our lives, or we meet certain people, or we succeed or fail at something we do not ‘get the spiritual lesson’ that we came to learn. Things are divinely timed for us. They may not happen in the time frame that our own ego wants. Our ego can feel impatient and despondent if it does not get what it wants fast enough.
So when chaos is happening in our lives it is important to remember that it only means the universe is shaking us up for future growth in consciousness. We will always learn from chaos. We simply cannot get attached to it, but trust that we will get through any challenge we face.
One way to get through chaos faster is to completely surrender. Surrender to the Higher Self and ask for inner guidance. Only when the ego surrenders will it be able to grow to new awareness.
The ego thinks it is in control of everything in its life – however that is the illusion of the ego. I discuss the nature of surrender and control in Spirit in Sport and this is discussed in depth at our programs.
Raising consciousness
The way to inner peace, love and joy is to heal those subconscious programs that are holding us in emotional *******. The emotional highs and lows from elation to depression, resentment to infatuation are the ego’s emotional journey through life. It is only when we connect with our Higher Self – our Soul that we can access true divine love and joy. Living with joy and love is our natural state of being – beyond the ego. In challenging times the ego gets stuck in the emotional pain and forgets the true loving state of the Soul Self – our True Self. Our evolution in human form is to heal those personas/programs (the Negative ego) in our mind that are emotionally charged and wounded.
The Barakaya programs and coaching assist people to heal those parts of their consciousness that are no longer serving them. This includes transforming limiting beliefs that hold people back from achieving the joy, wealth and loving relationships in their lives.
©Fiona Taylor, www.barakaya.com 2007
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Aug
23
Filed Under (Home And Family) by Corey
BuzzillionsEmma asked:
I’m wondering what other parents would say are toys are good for learning for a young child and/or toddler. Has anybody else heard about or bought the LeapFrog Phonetics letter set http://buzzillions.com/dz_696467_leapfro… ? I also found the fischer price laptop, but I think it’s for kids a little older :http://buzzillions.com/dz…
I’m wondering what other parents would say are toys are good for learning for a young child and/or toddler. Has anybody else heard about or bought the LeapFrog Phonetics letter set http://buzzillions.com/dz_696467_leapfro… ? I also found the fischer price laptop, but I think it’s for kids a little older :http://buzzillions.com/dz…
Aug
23
Filed Under (Special Education) by Corey
Leonardo asked:
I could be wrong but I think I remember reading something somewhere about how autistic kids/adults are geniuses and how they have higher IQ’s than average people.
I could be wrong but I think I remember reading something somewhere about how autistic kids/adults are geniuses and how they have higher IQ’s than average people.
Plus I know an autistic guy that’s in the Army now as a military police officer. He is so smart, and read every book known to man just about, can type 2 different things on 2 different computers at the same time, and can memorize everything he reads just like Matt Damons carachter in the movie Good Will Hunting.
Why is this?
Aug
23
Filed Under (Home And Family) by Corey
angelbaby asked:
My daughter is very good about sharing some things, like snacks, but her and the sitter’s daughter go back and forth with each other over toys. They are 2 yrs. and almost 3 years, and both like to say Mine. Do they ever learn to get along with each other that way?
The sitter is great with them, she’s good at dealing with it, and trying to teach them the right way. It’s just one of those things that seems like no matter how often you try, it doesn’t work. But I guess it will eventually when they both understand better…
My daughter is very good about sharing some things, like snacks, but her and the sitter’s daughter go back and forth with each other over toys. They are 2 yrs. and almost 3 years, and both like to say Mine. Do they ever learn to get along with each other that way?
The sitter is great with them, she’s good at dealing with it, and trying to teach them the right way. It’s just one of those things that seems like no matter how often you try, it doesn’t work. But I guess it will eventually when they both understand better…
Aug
20
Filed Under (Parenting) by Corey
520xyz asked:
Every parent wants his or her child to learn fast and grow up to become efficient and smart. Educational toys offer the best ways to help a child learn and have fun simultaneously. Parents who purchase educational toys for their children can save a lot of money by buying them at wholesale prices.
A wholesaler buys toys in large quantities from the manufacturers or importers. He sells smaller quantities to retailers, who in turn sell them to customers. Typically, wholesale rates are offered only to retailers who purchase the toys in bulk. However, there are times when a wholesaler sells these toys directly to the end user, namely the parent or teacher. There are a number of educational toys available at wholesale prices throughout the year. They are generally old stock that the wholesaler would like to dispose of quickly to make room for new models. Consequently, the wholesaler is inclined to sell them at cheaper rates.
The sale of educational toys at wholesale prices also happens during summer breaks or during festivals. When parents or teachers buy educational toys in large quantities, cheaper rates are offered to them.
The most popular educational toys now offered at wholesale rates on the Internet are kid’s laptops. These laptops are a good buy, because they make little kids computer savvy at a young age. Children really enjoy having their own laptops just like their parents, and have fun gaining lots of useful knowledge through their laptops
There are also other electronic learning toys for kids of all ages that provide a complete learning experience. In the past, many parents were hesitant to buy educational toys for their kids because the prices were really exorbitant. The availability at wholesale prices has proved to be an incentive for parents to buy educational toys.
Every parent wants his or her child to learn fast and grow up to become efficient and smart. Educational toys offer the best ways to help a child learn and have fun simultaneously. Parents who purchase educational toys for their children can save a lot of money by buying them at wholesale prices.
A wholesaler buys toys in large quantities from the manufacturers or importers. He sells smaller quantities to retailers, who in turn sell them to customers. Typically, wholesale rates are offered only to retailers who purchase the toys in bulk. However, there are times when a wholesaler sells these toys directly to the end user, namely the parent or teacher. There are a number of educational toys available at wholesale prices throughout the year. They are generally old stock that the wholesaler would like to dispose of quickly to make room for new models. Consequently, the wholesaler is inclined to sell them at cheaper rates.
The sale of educational toys at wholesale prices also happens during summer breaks or during festivals. When parents or teachers buy educational toys in large quantities, cheaper rates are offered to them.
The most popular educational toys now offered at wholesale rates on the Internet are kid’s laptops. These laptops are a good buy, because they make little kids computer savvy at a young age. Children really enjoy having their own laptops just like their parents, and have fun gaining lots of useful knowledge through their laptops
There are also other electronic learning toys for kids of all ages that provide a complete learning experience. In the past, many parents were hesitant to buy educational toys for their kids because the prices were really exorbitant. The availability at wholesale prices has proved to be an incentive for parents to buy educational toys.
Aug
18
Filed Under (Parenting) by Corey
Madeleine Fitzpatrick asked:
You can create a genius baby if you understand how the human brain is structured. In most adults, the left hemisphere of the brain is dominant. Left-brained people think in a logical, linear manner, while right-brained people think in a non-linear, intuitive fashion. The left-brained learn best through hearing, while the right-brained learn best through seeing and feeling.
Our school system, geared to logical, linear thinking, favors the left-brained. Right-brained children often do only averagely well in school because they are not able to show how they arrived at their answers, having reached them by unusual methods or through sheer intuition.
You should therefore not lose heart if your child gets low grades in school. It may be a sign of a genius in the making! A great example of a right-brained person is the scientist Albert Einstein. An acknowledged genius, he suffered from speech difficulties in early childhood.
So, is there a genius baby in your house? There may well be. As Glenn Doman and Makoto Shichida, two right-brain educators, put it: accessing the right brain enables a child to learn better and could unlock genius-like abilities.
These include speed-reading skills, a photographic memory, the ability to accurately sketch something seen only once, a facility for performing instant math equations, and rare musical talent. The right brain is also responsible for visual and spatial processing, and the ability to see problems in multiple dimensions, as great physicists do. Einstein possessed this ability.
If the right brain is so much more intuitive and creative, why is our left brain more dominant? For a very good reason. It does the important job of filtering out a lot of the information bombarding our senses. This helps us to avoid “sensory overload”.
If the right brain was dominant, we would constantly be reacting to a host of information being thrown at us. Think of the autism sufferer who, being hypersensitive to sensory stimuli, finds ordinary social interactions overwhelming, and you get the idea.
Our left brain helps us hold a conversation while ignoring background noises. It ensures that a great deal of the sensory input we receive remains beneath the radar of conscious awareness.
Right-brain teaching helps us to reclaim some of the benefits of right-brain dominance by changing the way we absorb and recall information. Most people memorize data by storing it in their short-term memory in the left brain. Only repetitive use leads to its transfer it to the long-term memory of the right brain.
Right-brain teaching helps us bypass the left brain and directly access our long-term memory, helping us learn faster. It allows us to recall information received on a subconscious level - for instance, through speed reading.
Unlike left-brain learning, right-brain learning does not require conscious effort. In small children, the right brain is already activated, making learning especially rapid. This is because the right brain develops before the left and is dominant until the age of three and a half.
So, if you want your child to be a genius baby, stimulate her right brain.
You can create a genius baby if you understand how the human brain is structured. In most adults, the left hemisphere of the brain is dominant. Left-brained people think in a logical, linear manner, while right-brained people think in a non-linear, intuitive fashion. The left-brained learn best through hearing, while the right-brained learn best through seeing and feeling.
Our school system, geared to logical, linear thinking, favors the left-brained. Right-brained children often do only averagely well in school because they are not able to show how they arrived at their answers, having reached them by unusual methods or through sheer intuition.
You should therefore not lose heart if your child gets low grades in school. It may be a sign of a genius in the making! A great example of a right-brained person is the scientist Albert Einstein. An acknowledged genius, he suffered from speech difficulties in early childhood.
So, is there a genius baby in your house? There may well be. As Glenn Doman and Makoto Shichida, two right-brain educators, put it: accessing the right brain enables a child to learn better and could unlock genius-like abilities.
These include speed-reading skills, a photographic memory, the ability to accurately sketch something seen only once, a facility for performing instant math equations, and rare musical talent. The right brain is also responsible for visual and spatial processing, and the ability to see problems in multiple dimensions, as great physicists do. Einstein possessed this ability.
If the right brain is so much more intuitive and creative, why is our left brain more dominant? For a very good reason. It does the important job of filtering out a lot of the information bombarding our senses. This helps us to avoid “sensory overload”.
If the right brain was dominant, we would constantly be reacting to a host of information being thrown at us. Think of the autism sufferer who, being hypersensitive to sensory stimuli, finds ordinary social interactions overwhelming, and you get the idea.
Our left brain helps us hold a conversation while ignoring background noises. It ensures that a great deal of the sensory input we receive remains beneath the radar of conscious awareness.
Right-brain teaching helps us to reclaim some of the benefits of right-brain dominance by changing the way we absorb and recall information. Most people memorize data by storing it in their short-term memory in the left brain. Only repetitive use leads to its transfer it to the long-term memory of the right brain.
Right-brain teaching helps us bypass the left brain and directly access our long-term memory, helping us learn faster. It allows us to recall information received on a subconscious level - for instance, through speed reading.
Unlike left-brain learning, right-brain learning does not require conscious effort. In small children, the right brain is already activated, making learning especially rapid. This is because the right brain develops before the left and is dominant until the age of three and a half.
So, if you want your child to be a genius baby, stimulate her right brain.
